Good Day World!
I’m tired of listening to people who gripe about things they can’t change.
If it’s 110 degrees outside and you’re complaining about the heat either go inside or shut up! If you have to be outside then griping isn’t going to make your situation any better. Probably worse.
Doesn’t that make sense?
I think it’s in our DNA to complain however.
Everyday we’re faced with reasons to complain: we’re not tall enough, we don’t have the latest and greatest, it’s too hot, it’s too cold, they get everything handed to them, they shouldn’t be doing this they should be doing that, etc.
Things to do about griping
Think before we speak.
Before blurting out a complaint really give some thought to what you’re going to say. Is it a complaint for the sake of complaining? Are you really unhappy with your situation?
Is there any benefit to expressing this view point? If you are looking for insight from the person you’re speaking with then by all means go for it. If you’re mentioning it to spark a debate or initiate a conversation, OK.
Just be aware of what you’re saying and why you’re saying it and also be mindful of the person you’re speaking with. Are they rolling their eyes?
Have a plan
If you’re unhappy with any situation make a plan on how you can change it. How are you going to take control and make your situation better? You can brush up your resume and start applying to new jobs. Can you go back to school or get specific training for what you’d like to do?
Don’t just moan about it do something!
Change your perspective.
Maybe you’re complaining because you lack empathy for someone. Change your perspective and really put yourself in their shoes (and not just in one particular situation, but overall).
Your thoughts, expectations and judgments may change and you may see the other person in a better light and not complain so much about how they’re handling things.
A change in perspective could also be helpful when we’re complaining about what we don’t have or how we don’t measure up. First of all we shouldn’t spend so much time comparing ourselves to others in the first place but if you do why is always with people who have more?
Why not compare with those who aren’t as fortunate as you. Look around you and really see what you have. There are a lot of people who would love to be in your position. Which leads me to my final point …
Be grateful for what you have and for what others have. Life isn’t a race to see who can collect the most money, cars or other shiny objects. Ever told anyone to mind their own business?
Well same goes for you. Focus on you and what makes you happy and how you can add value to your own life. Show appreciation for all that you currently have and for what you’ve been blessed with.
Don’t worry about all the other people odds are they’re looking at you and wishing for something you have and that you may even be taking for granted.
When we complain it’s usually because we’re so focused on what we’re lacking in certain aspects of our lives. The easiest way to curb our own complaining is to focus on the positive and go with the flow.
Time for me to walk on down the road…